Growing up I had this picture of what type of Mom I wanted to be for my kids, you know the one with the Minivan (which yes I drive one and I am totally tired of driving it and the next car we get will most likely be an SUV because I have had enough minivan time), running back and forth from activities with the kids, making sure they never walked out of the house looking like a mess, never leaving the house with out their hair brushed or always having everything that they need when they go out the door to school, has dinner ready at 5pm and the kids to bed on time every night, yeah that type of mom.
Fast forward 7 years and I don’t hit hardly any of those “perfect mom” standards. Do I strive for dinner to be at 5pm, well yes I do but ask me how many times that is truly a reality… like 3 times a month. I don’t know what is with my time mess up but I am going to blame it on the clock, I think they purposely skip minutes, heck even hours sometimes just so dinner is not at 5 like I plan it to be 😉
And let’s talk about the kids being all dressed and nice looking when we walk out the door all the time, well it was fully obvious in my Children’s Silly Comments Can Brighten Any Stressful Day post, when all 3 of my kids left the house barefoot and mismatched because we were only supposed to be running down the street. Now please don’t take this as all the time, but while I have good intentions like setting out the kids clothes at night so they are ready to go in the morning some how my youngest ends up still in her pjs as we are walking out the door to take the older 2 to school, well that is how it was last year I am hoping I get better at that one this year. I have also come to realize that no matter how much I would like my kids to walk out of the house looking a certain way that the battle over a pink shirt when they want to wear a green one is just not a battle worth fighting.
Then there was the time I forgot to give my kids lunch, never when I was growing up or while I was pregnant did I think I would be “one of those mommies” but it happens and it happens to the best of us. Seriously who forgets to give their kids lunch? That would have been my statement hearing that someone did that if I was told about it a few years ago, but trust me it can and does happen. I still feel bad for this one but they never said they were hungry so they must not have been 🙂
I swore my kids would have a bath every night and go to bed in clean pjs too, well baths are every other night and there are some times that my kids wear the same pjs 3-4 nights in a row. It is not because I don’t do laundry but because they want to wear the same ones and again a battle that I don’t see the point in fighting.
I always thought that I would have a nice clean house, and while our goods inside the house are nice (ok to an extent I have dirty hand prints on my couch and smudges on my walls), clean is not always the word to describe my house. Well I should say its not dirty, its cluttered (which there is a difference), but there is no way that you are going to feel comfortable eating off my floors as I gave up on cleaning them up all day long and just sweep through out the day, and vacuum (well hubby vacuums since you all know I have been banned from vacuuming) and then I mop at night after the kids are in bed (and to be completely honest there are nights that I don’t mop at all) I found it a waste of time to do nothing but clean all day long with 3 kids running around, there are toys spewed about all through out my house and dirty laundry on the bath room floors until they make it to the washer, so yes I have a Messy house, but I am ok with that (now any way, because I wasn’t always).
I thought I would always have patience and that I would not yell at my kids. And yes a majority of the time I do have a ton of patience with them but there are some days when my patience runs thin and everyone is asking 18 million times for the same thing as I am doing something else that needs to get done and I find myself no matter how much I hate yelling that I end up yelling at times.
I never thought I would be the one who forgot to do a school project until the night before it was due with my kids, but that too happened last school year for the first time. Boy did I feel like crap rushing around that afternoon to get everything we needed.
I have learned over the years that being the “perfect” parent is just not an option, at least not for me any way. The dreams of how motherhood was going to be have gone out the window and the reality of what motherhood is, well it is the best that I can make it. I do my best and that is all that I can expect from myself. Yes I am going to make mistakes but it is life and in life we make mistakes we learn from them and we pick our battles. So if you see me out and about with 3 kids who have mops on their heads (because they didn’t want their hair brushed that day) and are wearing pink shorts and green shirt and 2 mismatched socks just know that I let them pick out their outfit that day and they are happy as can be. After all the important part of being a mom is teaching my kids right from wrong, how to be polite and that in life we can not control everything and that being happy with life and who we are are the most important parts 🙂