When I was growing up my dad traveled… a lot. He was a salesman in the gasoline/petroleum industry and much about his job that I remember is trade shows.He always went to them and come home with the newest candy and funky snacks that companies were trying to get into gas stations. While he traveled 40+ weeks a year from the time I was young until I was in high school the things my dad taught me about life and his support far out weigh any of the time that he was not physically home. Even when he traveled he was just a phone call away (well once cell phones were invented) and his support and love for us was always shown.
I couldn’t have asked for a better role model in my life – really I am not just saying that. When times were (and still are at times) I know I can go to my dad and he will be there with open arms and ears to listen and help guide me. He taught me so much growing up that there are not enough words to express my appreciation for him and the sacrifices he made for my mom sisters and I are ones that I will forever be thankful for.
I am not sure if he knows just how important is was in helping me become me and for helping me become a better parent as I am tackling this parent thing- but he is and I think everyone can learn from him – I am not even sure if he knows what a role model he was to me – But I am sure when he sees this post he will 🙂
Some of what I learned from my dad is: (As the list could go on and on and I am sharing the most important ones)
- Physical presence does not determine the love and support of a parent – even while traveling he always was there when I needed him and even with his traveling he was there for me more then some of my friends parents were there for them and they were home each night for dinner
- That determination is going to get you where you want to be
- To cherish the time we have with our family – that every minute you have to spend with them is important and every laugh, smile, giggle, hug and kiss will be remembered
- That no matter what stand up for yourself – You can not let people walk all over you and you can stand up for yourself with out being mean and rude
- That a single person can handle things on their own if they have to. While my dad traveled it was my mom and my sisters and I and when the time came that Tom deployed when he was active duty I am not sure I would have been able to handle it had I not seen it growing up that what you need is the support to get through times when you spouse is gone for long periods of time
- To be independent and work for your goals and dreams – no one else is going to do that for you
- To play when ever you can with your kids because they grow up fast
- That as a parent we have to do what we have to do in order to make things be good for our kids and that sometimes long hours are a part of that and sometimes it means travel away from the family too but no matter what the most important thing is caring for our kids
- That at the end of the day we make sure the ones we love know that we love them
- Compromise is important in ALL relationships – in order for any relationship (marriage, friendship ect) you have to make compromises
- That those who love us understand that life gets crazy and when things calm down they will be there just like they were before things got crazy
- That a phone call can make a persons day
- Life is not equal nor is it fair- It is life thats just the way it is
- Failure is not a negative but a way to learn
- Support your children – no matter what they are struggling with
- The little things will make your kids smile
- Parenting is not easy but it is the best “job” in the world
- The struggles of parenting are so worth the reward in the end
- Happy children are happy because of who is in their life – not because of the material things they have
- Teaching your kids to have goals and accomplish things with out doing it for them will make them a better person
- Don’t do your kids homework for them- let them get the answer wrong and then learn from it
My dad taught me how to drive – which i am sure was scary considering I hit a GIANT Planter (I am talking a 2 foot tall by 3 foot wide sized planter, don’t ask I am still not sure how). He taught me how to cook, he taught me how to love, how to be patient, how to be kind, how to value life and all it has to offer and sooooo much more.
The Memories I have from growing up of my dad are nothing but happy ones – of course there are a few bad ones from when I was a teen but we all have those – but even then the love I felt from my dad all the time was unconditional.
As we get older the important people who helped us be the persons we are today are the ones that stand out and for me one of the most important people in my life is my dad I wouldn’t change a thing about him – he is awesome and I am loving every minute that I see him with my kids and the smiles they have when they are all running around playing and laughing and enjoying each other. I am so thankful that my kids are getting to know how awesome he is and the unconditional love that he has for his family!
So much of what I have learned from him I use in my daily life as a mom to my kids. Now I am hoping that as we hit the tween years in a few years he can give me some pointers on that and the teen years because with my oldest – she is a mini me and I know I wasn’t always the easiest kid to have in my parents house 😉
Who is one person who helped you become the parent that you are today?