Its been about 6 weeks since we have left suburbia in New Jersey and moved to The Poconos, don’t get me wrong I love being close to my parents and I love our house and that my kids have a big backyard to play in and that just about everything here is almost half the cost of when we lived in New Jersey but some days I miss the business of it. I never thought I would say that and I sure won’t be saying it to Tom but there are some things that suburbia is just better for.
Walking out side in the dark with street lights, that is one thing I miss. Granted there are motion lights all over the house outside and a light at the end of the driveway but it gets a bit freaky sometimes to walk out side and then hear heavy footsteps and know in the dark there is an animal. Daytime I can handle the animals night time makes me wonder how as a kid I was willing to walk out side in the pitch dark down to a friends house and back to my parents house. I am sure watching shows like Pretty Little Liars late at night doesn’t help lol
Shoprite… While we have one here it does take me about 25 minutes to get to, the convenience of having it be less then 7 minutes to it is defiantly something I miss about New Jersey. There is a grocery store that is about 10 minutes away but it is not the same as Shoprite 😉
Ordering delivery, there is no delivery here, I was not used to it as a kid, when we were going to have pizza we ordered it and then drove to get it and brought it home, 9 years in New Jersey where I could pick up the phone, order it and in less then 30 minutes it would be at my door was something I took for granted, never realized just how much I enjoyed that convenience, the same goes for Chinese food.
The noise never ever did I think I would miss the cars, or any of the other noise that comes from living in suburbia, here there is none of that noise which is a double edge sword, I enjoy the piece and quiet living here brings but sometimes hearing a little bit of noise would be nice.
The walks with the kids in the morning to school, we still walk them to the bus stop but I took for granted the excitement that they had as soon as they left the school building. They still share with me their days and tell me what they did at school when they get off the bus and we are on our way back home but it is different then when I met them at the front of the school and walked home with them.
Bringing my kids to school, not even the talking to them part but being the one to make sure they are safe inside the building, watching them leave me and walk across the street at the crossing guard and then going in and knowing that they are in school because I saw them walk in. It is nerve wracking to me daily that I don’t see them walk into the school, right now they take the bus and I know they enjoy it and it is a huge time saver but honestly I do not know if my nerves can take it much more and I may end up going back to driving them. Downside is that they really do enjoy riding the bus, talking with their friends and just the bus in general
I miss having a friend a few houses down that I can call and say “wanna have coffee” and it is a few second walk and there I am or she was at my house and we had a cup of coffee and a short chit chat and then went about our days.
I miss my kids having friends right down the street. There are kids on our street, my kids tell me they talk to them on the bus but they have not asked to play with them and I miss that for them. I miss that after school almost every day that my kids had friends to play with. When we first moved McKenzie called her bestie every day and now she doesn’t and she said it is because it was hard to talk to her with out missing her, and I hate that for her.
Alyssa’s preschool was awesome, she loved it there and her teachers and now the hunt is on here for a preschool. I got VERY lucky that we got the last spot in the preschool in New Jersey at one of the best ones in the area. Here Logan went to the one at our Church when we lived here for a few months in 2010 but the school is kinda far from our house and I am not sure the structure there is one that will work well for Alyssa. McKenzie teaches her what she learns at school so I am going to have to make sure that the school she goes to has educational things as well as the socialization.
The move was the right thing to do, I know in my heart and every time I see my kids hanging out with my parents or every time that they can now just go over to visit and its only a 15 minute drive, I know it was right but I guess I am realizing that 9 years in suburbia had more of an affect on me then I thought it did.