Growing up I always imagined what my life was going to be like, I imagined graduating college then having my wedding day and what it was going to be (what girl doesn’t) and how I was going to have a long white dress and a limo and the whole 9 yards and then I would have kids and the house and all that but things did not turn out that way.
I graduuated high school and went off to college at Penn State and then realized it was not the right time for me to be in college and that I wanted to be in the Army and so I left college to join the Army. After a paperwork mistake I ended up leaving the army and then I met hubby when I was 19 and we were both working at Arby’s and after a few months we started dating and then we found out that we were expecting our oldest daughter, who was the changing point in both of our lives. We then tossed around the idea of getting married and he decided to join the Air Force and we decided to get married when I was 20 and he was 19. We gave our families a 5 week notice that we were getting married and that was the end of it. Hubby went off to the Air Force for training and then we moved and had our son and I went back to school. A few months later I found out I was pregnant with our youngest and I graduated with my associates degree in early childhood education. I was now 26 years old and all the thoughts of what I thought life was going to be for me were out the window and I was a mom of 3 and in a totally different place then I ever thought I would be in. We got the news that hubby was going to be medically discharged from the Air Force and our life took a new turn as we jumped into the unemployment line and figured out where life would take us next. Life took us on a trip that we are still taking now with hubby in school and after 20 months of unemployment he found a job.
If you had asked me back before I had kids how I wanted my life to be I would have said “I want to be married, have a house a good job and then have kids” and while none of that has happened in the order in which I thought my life would go I love the life I have. All the struggles that hubby and I have had to plunge our way through, and all the times of things being rough both emotionally and financially have brought us to where we are now.
We don’t take things for granted because there have been many times that he and I have gone with out something that we have wanted or needed so our children had what they wanted and needed and while our life is on the up and up right now and we are in the process of digging out of the debt whole we had to make to survive while he was unemployed I would not change our past.
We have done things completely backwards of what I ever imagined my life would be or how my life in fact it is completely opposite of what I thought my life would be. Thankfully everything has worked out so far and I am looking forward to see what more our life brings for us.
Did your life go the way you imagined it would be? What did you think your life would be and how is it different then you imagined?