Hey Mom! (Yes that means YOU, right there debating on if you have time to read this or not)
Trust me for a minute, the dishes can wait for a few minutes while you read this. I promise, they aren’t going to jump out of the sink or have a cleaning fairy come and take them away (despite what others in your household may think is what happens).
Sit for a few minutes, give yourself a break and read this.
I know you are running around like a chicken with your head cut off. You are managing schedules, feeding kids, cleaning house, working, being a stay at home mom, a working mom and so much more. Your plate is over flowing. Life is getting crazy stressful. Life is busy, chaotic, and a bit different then you pictured.
The house no matter how much you try is never as clean as a “Pinterest house”. The meals you cook don’t look like they are from Pinterest either. The snacks you send into school are bought from the store while another kid brings in super cute hand drawn somethings.
I want to tell YOU that is OK! Actually it is more then ok! So is taking a few minutes for yourself so you can be YOU!
So many of us, myself included are guilty at times for thinking that because we have kids and because we are married that the “us” is now defined by the people in our house.
Yes our world tends to revolve around them, because let’s be real here it kinda has to. The folks in our homes need to eat, they need diaper changes, they need clothing cleaned, in general they need us. As a mom that is one of our jobs, to take care of our families.
However one job many of us are forgetting is that it is our job to take care of us too! It is our job to not lose ourselves as people. We are people too, just like everyone else in the world. Sometimes that is something that we lose sight of and I want to remind you that it is OK, (well better then ok, it is needed) that you keep who YOU are.
It is important to do YOU, important to be YOU, important to do things YOU enjoy. I get it, I do that you have a LOT on your plate and sometimes you think that it is not ok to be YOU. The YOU before marriage and kids. The YOU who enjoys things like taking a bike ride, reading a book, having a phone call with friends.
It is also important that you NEVER feel bad for doing things for YOU and taking care of YOU! We can not be the awesome rockstar moms that we are with out taking care of ourselves, and I forget that at times and was reminded today that I need to stop forgetting that. So I wanted to pass the message on to YOU, in case you forgot too!
Let the dishes slide one night, they will be there in the morning and take a warm bath and relax. Buy those store bought snacks at times instead of staying up till 5am to make some cute ones. I promise one time (or a few) won’t hurt anyone. Take that time to get a good nights sleep! Plan a night where you can leave the kids at home, and go out with a few friends even if it is just for an hour. Skip mopping the floor for a day and take that time to call a friend and have some uninterrupted adult conversation that you need. The dirty floor will be there tomorrow, heck it will be dirty again tomorrow even after you have mopped it today so no one will even notice!
Look, I get it you are finally at the end of this going “this lady is off her rocker, I need to pack the kids lunches”. I am too the Mom who puts her kids first, really in our house the kids come first, before Tom or myself. But a BIG part of that is knowing when taking care of myself and doing things for me and that I enjoy is also considered putting them first!
I can’t be rockstar Mom on no sleep and not being me and Neither can you!
So now that you have just read this, skip the dishes for tonight. Grab a book, a glass of wine, a bubble bath or the remote and have some YOU time. You need it, you deserve it and you will be a better Mom by doing it!
– A Mom who needs to be reminded at times to be herself and not just Mom too!
Ps. A BIG Thanks to the fellow Mom who reminded me of this today. It was a much needed reminder!