I know you are thinking with that title I am talking about my kids, which I do have trouble saying no to them but this is a different “no” this is the one I should be saying but instead I stretch myself to thin and say “yes” when I should be saying “no”.
I am very bad at saying no, it is a fault that I have and in the end it ends up with me being overly stressed out and wanting nothing more then the rest of the world to give me 5 minutes of peace. When friends call with a problem I have issues saying “no I can not talk right now”, when a party comes up I have trouble saying “no I can not go”, when anyone in my family needs something I have problems saying “no I can’t”. The only answer anyone ever hears from me is “Yes” or “sure I can” when in reality the real answer I should be saying is “no, I can’t”.
This causes me to have an overflowing plate, and me running on little to no sleep and then after so long I get so stressed and tired that I just crash. I find that I am often kicking myself for taking on to much and that I am missing out on so much enjoyment in life and fun with my kids because I am over tired and stressed out. It also leads to me wondering if the people around me really pay attention to how much I do have on my plate or if it is just “oh well I know she will say yes because she has issues saying no to the people she cares about”
I always tell myself that the next time someone calls and needs something from me that I will say no and the cycle continues because I end up saying “yes”… But I am now making it a point that I am going to make a change and say “no” when I want to and need to instead of stretching myself to thin and causing unneeded stress.
Do you have this problem too? Please share your tips on how to say no 🙂