Whenever I hear about something that I can do to help others in need I want to help. You all have also heard me talk often about how keeping my kids young and being kids for as long as possible is one of my main goals as a parent, aside from teaching them manners, work ethic, compassion and many other things. When I heard about the children of Napal having their ability to stay children even through their childhood years it tugged at my heart. Little kids deserve to be little kids, the responsibilities of adulthood should never be placed on the shoulders of a child.
To hear the words Married and age 9 in the same sentence not only broke my heart but it sent a fury through me. 9 Years old! Married! My daughter is 10 and there is NO WAY she is ready for marriage, heck there are days she can not even keep her room clean. Maturity is not there, it shouldn’t be, she is a kid. The kids being married in single digit ages are KIDS!
But in the country of Nepal kids ARE being married off at single digit ages and then with in a few years having babies because they are expected to do it! Could you imagine 10, 11, 12 years old with a baby?!?! I was 20 when I had my oldest and I was not ready and I was scared crap less and while I did it and I pulled through, got over my fears and was the mom I needed to be there is no way at 12 years old I would have been able to! No way no how! Then thinking of the pain from pregnancy and then childbirth, I am the size of most 12 year old I know, however I have been thru puberty, my hips have widened the 12 year old girls are still girl, they haven’t developed the body structure to handle pregnancy and labor nor the mental ability to handle it.
I have an 10 year old daughter and an 8 year, in Nepal they would be married or soon to be married and possibly working on having kids of their own! I have so many words that I want to use that are not internet appropriate when I think of my kids being at the age that other kids are being married off and forced to start their own families. Like uggg! My stomach gets knots in it, churns and I can feel the anger and rage steaming just thinking about kids my kids ages having to be adults and have adult responsibilities!
I get cultures are all different but this is not a culture thing, this is a KID thing, this is something that is not ok. It is not a culture thing in Nepal, it is a way for the parents to have one less mouth to feed since once they are married they are no longer the responsibility of the parents. It keeps a continuing cycle of poverty going and it is unfair to these children.
Ok so back to helping, we can help these kids stay kids and while they are not in our country and we don’t have an obligation of any sort to help them we still should. Kids can not fight for themselves, they are kids and they should be allowed to BE KIDS!
Recently Care.com released a report that broke my heart reading it, tears streaming down my face. “Dads Too Soon: The Child Grooms of Nepal,” the report sheds new light on an issue often seen through the eyes of girls, who suffer the most at the hands of child marriage. Through stories and statistics, the multimedia report details the forces pushing both girls and boys into early marriages in parts of western Nepal.
A few seconds of your time, you can make a difference. No Money out of your pocket, just filling out a quick form and you can help these kids, I filled out mine. Remember it only takes one person to make a change, can you imagine HUNDREDS and THOUSANDS of us speaking up for these kids who have no voice of their own? 30 seconds of our time can change their lives forever! They are kids and they deserve to have someone be their voice when they can not and someone to fight for them to be able to be kids for as long as possible!
Photo Credit: Cassie Wedemeyer