I recently recieved an e-mail from a reader asking me how I was always able to say good things about my husband my kids and our life all the time and how I was able to be a supermom, handle stress so well and run a household along with the blog and any tips I had for her.Well I want to answer this on here because we all have good times and we all have bad times in our life and it is all how you face them. I think that answering it here will help many people at the sametime as well.
The answer is I don’t handle stress well, I am not super mom no matter how hard I try, my kids are not angels and my husband and I fight, and there is a lot of coffee in my day to stay awake and I am just like everyone else with the same life issues and stresses.
Things are not always perfect with my husband and I, and many of my friends can tell you that hubby and I have our fair share (or some times more then our fair share) of fights, arguments and disagreements. We have the small “silly” ones and then the large ones (where one of us sleeps on the couch because we can not agree to calmly discuss something). It is life, it is what happens when 2 people live the same life but in their own way and are not always the same on thoughts and opinions. Compromise is important (but I can say that getting to that compromise is not always easy and sometimes feels like one person is giving in more). But we do have our times when things are amazing and little things like him bringing me home a cup of Starbucks on his way home from school happen or he surprises me with an early gift (like he did for Mother’s Day).
As for the kids, not everyday (or even close) is a bright cheerful day where my kids are on their best behavior. There are days in our house when I am counting down the minutes until bed time because they are in rare form and they are pushing my buttons to the max. There are days when the fights among them make me want to send them off to a zoo and have them put in separate cages. There are days when no matter what I say there is one or more of them that refuse to listen to anything that hubby or I have to say. There are Days that Ice Pops are my best friend too. But there are many days when that we are all in good moods, having fun, the kids are listening and things run smoothly.
As for the stress, there are days where if I could I would just go back to bed and days I wish that going back to bed would make the day start over and that I count the minutes until the day is over so we can start a fresh new day. Those days you will find me with a full cup of coffee all day long, and it is not because I didn’t drink it it’s because I am refilling it constantly.
While I do not share these times with you I want you to know that we all have days and times that are not sunshine and rainbows but that keeping a positive out look will help with those days. I am not perfect and nor is my family in any way, we have our good days and bad days just like everyone else. I do try to be supermom and there are times that I fail (like the day I forgot about my son’s field trip and we were late for school and I ended up bringing him to where his field trip was instead of him going with his class or the day that I forgot to feed my kids lunch). It happens, life happens and the only thing that we can do is not stress the negative and focus on the positive. I don’t share these times because I like to focus on the positives and the good things in life. The good out weighs the bad and keeping the good times in front of the bad will help with all of the bad, even if the bad seems unbearable.
We can talk about cleaning, are there days when my house is spotlessly clean, yes there are but they are few and far between (read Why I am ok with my Messy House). Are there days when the laundry has exploded all over the house? Yes there is but I am totally convinced that the clothes make new clothes while we are sleeping (Read Time to Keep the “boy” laundry away from the “girl” laundry to learn more on my thoughts on that)
If you have a day where you feel guilty because you think calling the local zoo to come for the crazy animals that woke up in your house that morning replacing your children, don’t! No one has a perfect life, a perfect house, a perfect marriage, no stress, no housework to manage, cooking to do ect. We all have lives that are sometimes perfect and sometimes a vacation to Aruba (as my mom would say) seems like the only way to make things better but keeping the positive outlook no matter how hard will help us through it 🙂