Getting Pregnant before getting married
So I have to vent about this because it is eating at me and well that is what part of the blog is about right? Sharing life experiences. My husband came home the other day and told me that someone he knows was offended that he and I got pregnant with our oldest daughter before we were married. It is no big secret, my daughter knows that she was in my “tummy” when I got married. Heck its obvious ALL of our wedding photos cause you can see my big giant belly!!! The younger 2 know it too and sometimes they ask why Kenzie got to be at the wedding and they didn’t. It is no big deal in our house, now I do hope my daughter chooses a different path for herself, because it has been a struggle at times being a young mom. Ya know what I am offended that this person was offended about my life choices…
Is that what I planned for my life when I was younger, no it was not but it doesn’t change things and frankly I am happy with the way my life turned out and while it used to be something that bothered me that I did get pregnant before I was married it was the best thing that happened to my life. The comments that people like to make about how my husband and I did things with our life fine, but to be honestly offended that we got pregnant and then we got married and now we are about to celebrate our 8th wedding anniversary and have 2 more children is ridiculousness. There are so many things in life that people do that we don’t agree with or approve of but really to say to someone that you are offended that they got pregnant and then got married and basically put down my child is really upsetting to me. It is like the time when a family member said to me that my daughter was not a child of God because she was conceived out of wedlock, and I know I don’t talk about religion much here on the blog, but a child is still a child of God no matter how they are conceived or when. The punishing of children or being offended by them all because of how they came to be is ridiculous.
The only thing that should matter is that my kids are loved, cared for, fed, and happy not how they came into this world!
Did you have your children before you were married and do you have to deal with the same types of comments?
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