This morning Tom and I headed to the main office of the school district to meet with the Superintendent over the issues we have been having at the kids school. If you missed it the post here about when last week I had to call the police to come to our house due to my daughter being upset and saying she wanted to run away.
To catch anyone up who missed it (which most things were posting on the MidgetMomma Facebook Page) this is the quick version:
We had issues with one of my oldest daughter’s teachers, from posting this essay on the board for the kids to copy down as an example (in a school that has a dress code) to her not allowing my daughter to go to the nurse when she had a bloody nose and a few other random issues as well.
My daughter has been dealing with being bullied by one of the kids in her class, in the beginning of the year the girl told me daughter she wanted to kill her, my daughter had incidents of the girl saying and doing things to my daughter (like following her and cornering her in the bathroom) over the past 8 months. My daughter was told by the principal that she “needs to be friends with the girl” which I do not agree with, I agree with being polite and respectful and kind to the girl (because we believe in treating people how we want to be treated and not how they treat us and I try hard to have the kids follow that rule) and whenever there was an issue that was basically the answer to “solve the problem”.
Since the visit from the police we found out that there are 2 other girls who are picking on her as well and we have not gotten to the bottom of why she hadn’t told anyone about that. I suspect it is because nothing was done about the other girl but I am working on trying to figure that out and get that answer from my daughter.
My daughter came home from school this week flip flopping saying “she is friends” and “she isn’t friends” with the girl who has been involved the whole school year and I am trying to figure out if it is because of influences saying they should be friends. She did tell me that the girl apologized to her and she forgave, but I am still unsure about the “friendship” and really my mommy gut is telling me that something is not right so we are keeping a close eye on that.
As for today, we had our meeting with the Superintendent and it went a lot better then even I expected.
Dealing with my daughter’s school didn’t give me much confidance in the school district in general even though the current Superintendent was the principal at my high school when I was in school and I know how she was when I was in school but its been 13 years and she now has a different position then when I knew her.
I told her about the field trip issue, of how there was no room for me on the field trip bus because the parents of the kids with allergies and medical reasons had first dibs on seats and being chaperones, the girl who has been bullying my daughter will be on the trip and her mom will be a chaperone and that did not make my mommy gut feel easy, and made me really nervous so when I talked to the school. the school’s solution was for me and her to drive behind the bus the 3 hour each way trip so McKenzie could go on the trip. We have now figured out a solution that should work that will have McKenzie not feeling left out. First though I have to get her to agree to go on the field trip because right now she is telling me she doesn’t want to go but I am hoping with this solution she will be back on wanting to go. This is the BIG field trip of the year.
We talked about the teacher, not letting her go to the nurse for her bloody nose and the essay she had the kids copy off the board, she told me that she can not discuss with me and she has to do a few things and I feel fully comfortable at this point that she will get things fixed with that situation and I completely understand that there are things as a parent I don’t need to know about and can’t know about but I do feel comfortable at this point that it will be handled.
We talked about the issue of rules not being followed in general at the school, last week my daughter refused to wear the dress code attire and after fighting with her I ended up letting her go to school in the leggings and tshirt she was wearing and she told me that even though the rule is that the school is supposed to call the parents and have them bring proper clothing she knew they wouldn’t call me and well she was right. I told them about that as well.
We talked about the issues of the bullying that is going on and the lack of punishment in general when a kid in the school does something that they shouldn’t do and it was discussed on how fix this situation as well. No solid solution as we have to see where things continue going but since she is aware of the situation and not just the principal it will make things easier to deal with and take care of.
We will be having a meeting with me, her and the principal soon since my daughter still has another year to go in this school, my son has another 3 years after this and next year my youngest starts kindergarten and the Superintendent wants to make sure that we can solve this and make it so the kids are safe and I feel safe having them there since that is the school they are slated for (which we can switch schools due to issues by law but I would like to keep the kids stability that they have right now since so far before this year they spent each grade at 2 different schools each year and I would like to have them stay in the same school if possible).
Overall the issues are not fully resolved as there is work that has to be done but I feel comfortable with how the Superintendent talked with Tom and I, how understanding she was and how just her body language gave the “this is not ok” vibe and she said that things need to be fixed.
As we continue through this I will update you all with how things go. I can not thank you all enough for your support, your thoughts and your prayers. They mean a TON to us and I really hope the end is near for McKenzie having to deal with this in her school, when she should be there to learn and make friends and enjoying being at school and not come home upset.