Fifty Shades being a huge success is no secret, it is also no secret that you either love it or you hate it. People refuse to read the books based on the thought that they are nothing more then a “sex book” that is degrading to women. I have been confronted on why I would stand behind such a book (and now the movie, which look for the review soon). The answer is simple, its a love story about life.
Everyone of us who enters a relationship brings our own baggage, no one is perfect, no one is flawless. Everyone’s relationship goes through challenges, ups and downs, good times and bad. No one is a clean slate when they are in a relationship and our past is always with us, and when you enter a relationship your past comes into it as well. Is this story a bit more then most people will deal with when entering a relationship? Yes it is, but its a story, its job is to entertain us and with that dramatic events are necessary. Let’s face it no one is going to read a dry boring book about two people who are in love, we want action, we want thrill, we want challenges, we want drama when we are reading a book or seeing a movie and this series does just that.
The focus is so much pointed that this is “erotica” and people miss that there really is soo much more then just sex when it comes to Fifty Shades. There is a love story. There are challenges. There are ups and there are downs. This is not a story about a woman being a sex object as some have said to me (when asking why I would even want to talk about the book or the movie) but a story of a man and a woman who love each other, one with some very heavy baggage that he has carried through out his life and will take a special person to break the change of events and the way he lives. In relationships there are compromises that both parties make, sometimes they are ones we don’t really want to but we do it because we love the other person.
Over the past 10 years that Tom and I have been married the amount of times that we had to compromise on things is uncountable, but while our issues were nothing like what Grey and Ms. Steele deal with they were issues none the less that compromise had to be reached.
As a woman who fully believes I can do anything a man can do, I don’t believe that just because I am a woman that it means I can not do something. To be honest I think anyone can do anything they set their mind to do, no matter what their gender is. We have that ability as long as we put our minds to it. A movie like this where people believe it is setting our world back in the fight for women to be treated equal have not really read the story, they make the judgement based on what they hear and what other people say with out taking the time to read it themselves.
And let’s face it, as adults sex is a part of our life, maybe not they type of sex we see in these books, but sex none the less! When you are in a relationship sex is important and everyone will have different tastes but just because someone is into different things doesn’t mean that there is something wrong with them. Everyone is different, everyone is wired different and when it comes to a relationship having sex is healthy. It is how you connect to your partner and the person you love, its a level of intimacy that is needed in a relationship.
It is also a book that proves anyone can change and be who they really want to be! At first Grey is a dominant control freak who believes that is who he is and in the end he had made so many positive changes to himself all because he found the one he loves and the one who loves him that the personal change was possible.
If you are one wondering if you should take the step and read the Fifty Shades books, I say yes do read them. There is adult content as that is the target audience but its a story that people can relate to of all different age groups because every one of us who has been in a relationship knows that nothing is perfect about a relationship, nothing is perfect for both people, both people bring their own baggage and it takes team playing to make the relationship work.
So yes while this book series has sex involved in it and adult content, there is so much more in the meat of Fifty Shades then just sex!